I’ve been thinking a lot about mindset lately. I’m always fascinated by the fact that some people are so relentlessly positive, even in the face of severe adversity, and others can complain about the simplest of things. How do those positive folks do it, and how can I get more of that please?
Our mindset sets the tone and direction of our lives, and it is the foundation upon which everything else is built. Our subconscious mind is responsible for more of what is happening in every aspect of our lives right now than anything else. That elusive subconscious is mighty powerful! When our thoughts are not aligned with what we truly desire, when we tell yourself the same old stories which don’t support us, we wind up confused, frustrated, discouraged, and wondering if anything will ever change.
We may even feel bouts of fear, doubt, negativity, and a lack of self trust and confidence. This affects our ability to be able choose our attitude in challenging situations, and to design the life we truly want. After all, we get what we expect.
Elevating our mindset allows us to respond vs. react. Our coping skills improve, not to mention our overall self love, and the ability achieve whatever successes our heart desires.
Sounds like a plan to me! So how do we do it? What does elevating your mindset look like?
- Fostering an attitude (and better yet a written list) of gratitude every damn day
- Creating a support system and tools to turn to when things suck
- Developing a shorter recovery time to move from that sucky place (OK, this COULD involve a brief tantrum and escaping to your couch for an afternoon in your PJs watching Love Boat reruns while feasting on Cheetos and Pinot Grigio – but only ONE afternoon!)
- When glitches occur, reframing it by filling in the blank: “What’s good about this is________.”
- Knowing that YOU ARE ENOUGH, and telling yourself that daily (hourly if necessary), especially on the days you don’t feel it
- Asking for help, and being willing to return
- Maintaining unwavering faith that you can be, do, or have anything in this life that you desire
- And when that faith wavers, go to top of this list and begin again
Some of my favorites tools to elevate my mindset, interrupt old patterns and create new pathways are meditation, prayer, gratitude, being in nature, setting intentions, affirmations, volunteering, essential oils, journaling, and chatting with my girlfriends.
What are some of yours? I’d really like to know….and remember, sharing is caring!